Although you want to be a support to the people you love, you must make sure to take care of yourself and your needs. Being too available robs you of vital energy that you need to keep yourself healthy in body, mind and spirit. This involves setting and maintaining personal boundaries that is respected by a lover.
Here are ten ways you can be a healthy partner for both yourself and your partner:
- You balance time together and apart
Sure, you want to spend time with them, but you also allocate time for your job, hobbies and loved ones. Although you will be accessible to your love to support, socialize or talk with, you do so in a way that is healthy for your psyche and finances.
- You call each other equally
It’s not good for your self-esteem is you are always calling your lover. Allow them to chase you every once in a while!
- You reply to their communications at time that is good for you!
Never feel like you have to automatically respond to an incoming text or call. It’s healthiest for you both to wait to communicate during a time that is convenient and relaxing for you.
- Have healthy external friendships
It can be a troublesome sign if you feel compelled to ditch a social engagement with a loved one just because your partner is suddenly available. You need to strike a balance between quality time together and time spent on solo personal interest. By taking this appropriate your partner will see you as a steadfast, loyal and healthy individuals that is able to support their needs when the time is right.
- Avoid last-minute requests
Constantly dropping your plans last minute for another person is a surefire way to burn yourself out. Sure, you love spending time with your partner, but it’s important to do so in a respectful and balanced way. Be comfortable telling them way you are turning down an invite and share all that is going on in your life and how you are working to balance all your priorities.
- Personal boundaries are essential
Relationships that last involve healthy boundaries and mutual respect for them. If either of you toe the line, have a respectful conversation about what happened, why it happened, and what you can do to avoid it from happening it again.
- Be mysterious!
Resist the temptation to share every thought with each other. But tread lightly, because some thoughts can be difficult to process and cause potential arguments or fights.
- Disagreeing occasionally is a good thing
You both are two unique people. Therefore, it makes sense that you have distinct opinions, behaviors, thoughts or emotions. Never be so nervous about potentially upsetting your partner that either of yourselves find it impossible to say NO. Even if a disagreement causes a conflict, if you work together to find a solution, then your relationship will emerge stronger than before.
- Be your own person
Nobody is attracted to a codependent individual. But, a fully realized and vibrant personality, now that’s a turn on! Feel free to have your own plans and encourage them to explore their own passions as well. Turn to each other for advice about life or difficult decisions, but feel confident to merely take the opinions under advisement and forge your own path forward!
- Never rush into a commitment
Falling in love takes time, patience, and work. It’s a red flag if you immediately meet and quickly decide to become exclusive.
It’s important to have a rich life together, but also apart. You lead by example when it comes to giving people a roadmap as to how to treat you. If you treat yourself as whole, worthy, and lovable than your partner will reciprocate.